That’s right, South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford has cheated on his wife. Everyone converge now on your favorite media source and read up on the juicy details!
As for me, to put it bluntly: I don’t give a fuck. It’s even worse, tho, the entire concept of dragging politicians marriage squabbles through the mud in a public forum is what really pisses me off.
For those that don’t know, earlier this week there was much talk about the fact that no one seemed to know where the governor was this past Monday after a intense fight with the South Carolina Legislature. A spokesman for the governor finally released a statement saying that he was hiking on the Appalachian Trail. Of course, much political stupidity came out of this, such as the Senate Minority Leader John Land claiming that the governor’s behavior was “erratic” (cnn.com). I suppose it is, in a way, but as I was flying past this story on Tuesday I thought “Good for him!”. Ok, so I will admit to feeling a little stupid, but back to my point.
I keep a pretty close eye on the news. I like to know what’s going on around me. Most recently this has included keeping up on the Iran election fallout. For awhile, the top story on cnn.com was that Governor Sanford has admitted to having an affair with a woman in Argentina. Unfortunately, he wasn’t out hiking, but was still getting alot of, uh, exercise. He has publicly come out to apologize and resign from the Republican Governors Association.
His wife, Jenny (insert something about peas and carrots), has had things to say publicly about this as well, admitting that she asked him to leave as part of a “trial separation”. You can read her statement HERE. There are a number of things that disgust me about her public response, which I’ll get into in a second.
First I want to explain why this sort of thing pisses me off. What happens in someones marriage is none of our fucking business. It, frankly, boggles my mind that these politicians feel they need to apologize to an entire state (or country) for infidelities towards their spouse. It’s none of our business! I completely reject the idea that if a husband cheats on his wife, he is incapable of holding public office and making decisions to benefit the people relying on him. They are apples and oranges, and if we applied this sort of unrealistic thinking to every working American, half our workforce would have to be sent home. Somehow I don’t think that is about to happen.
Working on a state budget is not comparable to sticking it to some chick in Argentina. When it comes right down to it, this is a family issue and I wish these politicians (and their spouses) would quit making public statements about it. I also think it’s underhanded of the media to put these stories in the most prominent positions.
For those that think I’m defending him, I’m most certainly not. He’s broken his word to someone he chose to spend his life with. I consider that a major trust violation. However, it has nothing to do with me, nor the people of South Carolina. It has to do with him and his family.
Back to Jenny’s statements. Let me include an excerpt:
I personally believe that the greatest legacy I will leave behind in this world is not the job I held on Wall Street, or the campaigns I managed for Mark, or the work I have done as First Lady or even the philanthropic activities in which I have been routinely engaged. Instead, the greatest legacy I will leave in this world is the character of the children I, or we, leave behind.
I hope she didn’t dislocate anything while patting herself on the back there. To me, this came across as inappropriate.
We reached a point where I felt it was important to look my sons in the eyes and maintain my dignity, self-respect, and my basic sense of right and wrong. I therefore asked my husband to leave two weeks ago. This trial separation was agreed to with the goal of ultimately strengthening our marriage. During this short separation it was agreed that Mark would not contact us.
Wait, what? Way to use the kids as ammunition! I understand that a breach of trust is nothing quick, nor easy, to repair. It’s a very emotional time, and sometimes this requires space. However, I have a serious issue that she requested he not contact his own children during their trial separation. Maybe I’m just overly cynical, but that looks to me like she’s using the kids to exact some revenge.
This is a very painful time for us and I would humbly request now that members of the media respect the privacy of my boys and me as we struggle together to continue on with our lives …
This is the only part of her statement that has anything I agree with, but if she wanted to keep this private, they shouldn’t have released public statements. This makes her look good, because after airing out her dirty laundry, she’s now requesting privacy. I think you should’ve thought of that before you and your husband turned this into a public spectacle, Jenny.
Some may wonder why I’m not ripping on the governors statements. I’ve not been able to find much to rip him about, other than the cheating itself. I do want to make sure any readers out there understand that I feel there’s no excuse for cheating on your spouse (man or woman, this isn’t a male-only sport). However, all I’ve been able to find is that he’s admitted to having an affair with someone who started out as a friend in Argentina. He apologized and requested a “zone of privacy” (see previous bitch) for his family. There’s not much there to rip into, really, other than the obvious indiscretion.
Finally, it’s easy for me to blame the politicians themselves or the media, but when it comes right down to it, the really guilty parties are those that feel the need to live through others pain and humiliation vicariously. If we stop giving our money to read this garbage, there will be no profit for the media to make off of publishing it. This isn’t a feminism issue, or a political issue, it’s a family issue between a husband and wife and it’s inappropriate for it to be dragged over the worlds stage for everyone to gobble up along with dinner.